Baby Mama Drama

I predict a lot of babies coming out at the end of summer due to the two week snow-in in December. We already know of one couple who is expecting and that's great news for them. In other baby news, there is an aspiring DJ we know whose girlfriend is expecting and I can't help but cringe. The baby drama is already starting and he doesn't even know it yet.

I'm not a nosy person but I have been able to deduce that his girlfriend is pretty young. I don't think she is quite the legal drinking age yet because I have not seen her with him at any of the club nights. However, she did tell him that her internal clock was ticking for some babies while they were together the first time. For anyone, you'd think this would be an immediate flag. When she was off her birthcontrol, she told him she didn't want to get back on it. I don't know what the hell he was thinking. Pulling out is not an effective birth control method, dummy. GEEZ!!!

After he found out she was preggers, he decided to give the relationship another whirl. But looking at him, you can tell he's fed up with her but doing his damndest to be committed because he's really excited to have the child.

I understand that there comes a time in a woman's life when they really want a baby. I went through that period a time or two but never followed through. Why? I'm responsible. I am not going to bring another person into the world when I can barely take care of my own things. I am also not going to subject another person to taking care of a child if I am not able to. I have a great support system and should it happen, I think I will be fine. BUT I also enjoy a childless life right now and it would be selfish for me to bring a baby into my life when I'm not ready.

So I wonder about these people who don't seem to think further than the "I want a baby." What about child care? Healthcare? Food? A home? Work? Come on, people! As far as I know, these two people don't have healthcare insurance and there is only so much that the Oregon Health Plan will cover. Coming from working with health insurance on a daily basis, I can tell you that having the Oregon Health Plan is a pain in the butt. Even if you could get in to see a specialist, there is a long waiting period and then there are all these guidelines about diagnoses and procedures and sometimes the insurance won't cover it.

Just like driving, I think people should take a test or something before they are allowed to have a child AND it should be that both parties are willing and committed to raising the child whether they are married or not BEFORE the baby is created. There should be no option to have deadbeat dads and loser moms. The future is important and if kids are the future, we should ensure that they receive the best all around care.